Mama, Your Kids Need A Break From You
Dear Guilt-Ridden-Mama-Who-Loves-Her-Kids-And-Also-Puts-Them-In-Childcare:
It's okay. Your kids need a break from you too. They need to hear other people's thoughts, other people's wisdom, even, other people's criticisms.
They need to be able to cope with you walking out the door. They need to learn to trust you'll be back and to trust themselves knowing they'll be okay, even without you.
You need to learn that they will still love you best; even when you are not with them every moment.
You are their mama. And you always will be.
But please, mama, don't hold that sweet girl back; Don’t keep the joy of that baby boy all to yourself. Pass those kids around; spread the love. Help them learn about community and compassion and helping one another and helping themselves.
There will be plenty of times that they fall and you'll be there to pick them back up. But sometimes, they'll need to learn to find comfort in someone else’s arms.
Help them learn how.
Teach them by stepping back.
Let them go.
Just a little bit.
Give them space.
They are not your belongings.
Sweet mama, letting go is the hardest thing you will ever learn to do. It will break your heart and you will be alone, again and again.
Arms empty. Womb empty. House empty.
There is no way around it, no way to avoid it, no way to delay it. Sweet mama, don't cling to that baby just because you’re afraid of the day they’ll be gone.
Be brave and give your child room to grow. Continue to grow yourself. You are not a hero because you haven't had time to shower. You are a hero because you trusted your bond with your child enough to hand them over to someone else and go take that shower.
You don't have to put yourself last to be the best mother there is. The best way to support someone is to be beside them and a little behind. Let them go, let them fall; let someone else be there to catch them.
You can't watch every moment of their lives. You can't keep them safe. You can't even keep death away. Yes, sweet mama, it is terrifying. It is can’t-get-up-in-the-morning earth shattering. I know. I'm scared too.
Breathe in, breathe out and let go. Your children are not yours to keep – and you are but one of their teachers. (Click to Tweet)
Allow them many good teachers. Open the doors to your home and the doors to your heart so that your children do the same. Not everyone who comes in will be good, yet this too is one of your lessons to teach.
Sweet mama, each moment IS precious. but please don’t claim them all. Let your baby go out and explore. I can’t promise you it’s safe, I can’t promise you it won’t hurt, but I can promise you this: It’s worth it.
“Your children are not your children, they are the sons and the daughters of life’s longing for itself. They come through you, but they are not from you and though they are with you they belong not to you.”
— Kahil Gibran
Hannah Weishart Garrison is a terrified mother of two who reads all about the mama heroes (heck, she can even read her own text messages) about how each moment is precious and SHIT it all goes so fast she doesn’t want to GIVE UP any moments. God, she wants them ALL TO HERSELF. She business coaches here and is working on launching this.
I Am Tired of Writing About Mom Shit (GIVEAWAY!)
Today was fine.
It was a regular day (guitar string bracelets, building websites, booking clients, wiping poopy bums, eating, doing laundry, paying bills, painting trim, going to pediatrician, vacuuming, taking the dogs out, selling cloth diapers online, taking pictures of my food, talking to my employees, yelling at my husband, scheduling email blasts, planning sales for holiday season) and it was fine.
Today was fine.
It was a regular day (guitar string bracelets, building websites, booking clients, wiping poopy bums, eating, doing laundry, paying bills, painting trim, going to pediatrician, vacuuming, taking the dogs out, selling cloth diapers online, taking pictures of my food, talking to my employees, yelling at my husband, scheduling email blasts, planning sales for holiday season) and it was fine. Did I mention that already? I don't want to look a fine gift horse in the mouth, because there are PLENTY of days (trust me) when fine would have been FREAKING AMAZING. But lately these fine kind of busy, half-asleep days are kinda lackluster.
I want something REALLY exciting to happen.
(I think I am, like, an excitement junkie at this point – cause buying a house and having a baby aren't exciting enough?)
And so I think. What would I like? What would be exciting? Well, my answer is this: Something that wasn't mom shit. It's not that I don't love my kids (I do), it's not that I am not an asshole (I am), it's just that some days I am bored and I miss throwing myself FULL FORCE into my business.
So, in order to jumpstart my process and carve out the time I need for my business, I am doing something I've never done before. I am
giving away a
free mini session. Gulp.
Are you interested?
Choose from these phone/skype session options:
- 30 Minutes to Goal Planning
- 30 Minutes to Computer Sanity
- 30 Minutes to Time Management
- 30 Minutes to Inspiration
- 30 Minutes to Money Smarts
- 30 Minutes to Self Care
TO ENTER: All you've got to do is tell me why you need it. Either comment below or email me if you'd prefer to keep it private. A week from this post (10/10) I'll pick the winner and we can schedule your session!
Good luck! And do, go, share with your friends.
BY WAY OF REMINDER...
WHO MY CLIENTS ARE:
- People who are interested in being fulfilled, having the "good life."
- People who want to live in accordance with what they value.
- People who are willing to work hard, but don't want to work all the time.
- People seeking balance (between work and pleasure, between giving and taking, between passion and income).
- People who want to discuss, clarify and create goals for business and personal advancement.
WHAT I CAN HELP WITH:
- Helping you to figure out your goals, short/ long term, business/personal.
- Helping you create a schedule that works for you, that encourages you to thrive.
- Helping you organize your life, your priorities and your time.
- Mapping out and achieving your financial goals, both business and personal.
- Helping you to understand and honor your strengths and adapt to and work with your weaknesses.
- Helping you to realize that you are full of skills and amazing qualities that need to shine.
- Listening and processing along side you.
More HERE.
