I Need More
Sometimes I need more self care than other times. Is it hormonal? Astrological?
Also, #selfcare didn't really used to be a thing, a buzzword. There was "me time" and "down time" there were just normal freaking people who read books and painted their nails and took showers and ate healthy and that wasn't some special #iterativeliving thing. It was just life.
But back to me...There are times in my life where I don't have to be as protective of my sleep. When I can work late and get up early and be happy. (This isn't one of them.)
There are times in my life where I can survive without eating breakfast. (This isn't one of them.)
There are times in my life where I can plan weeks in advance. When I can see clearly, long distance. (This isn't one of them.)
There are times in my life where I feel connected and grounded and thoughtful and clear. (This isn't one of them.)
But right now - in order to be a good mom, and a good wife, and a good friend, and a good coach, and a good person - I need to sleep, eat, read, and do less. Maybe the #busy caught up with me. Maybe breastfeeding is exhausting.
Maybe maybe maybe, baby.
You know what you need if you stop long enough to listen. (Click to Tweet)
Call it self care, call it indulgent, call is necessary, call it spoiled. Sometime it's just survival. Like when you can't go on any other way.
Just remember this: Take care of yourself when you need to.
I AM:: Scattered, A Hot Mess
Fuck it, man. I am really good at a few things. But not today. Well, maybe this morning. But not today. Maybe a little bit in the afternoon. But not today. The evening kinda crumbled, but when I had to be I was still:
pretty fucking good.
Right, right? Isn't that what I would tell you to say to yourself? Even when (and that when, for me, is RIGHT NOW) you feel completely scattered and like you are doing not one bit of good. What do I usually say?
Become present and SLOW DOWN.
That's it, have I drilled it home? That's what I should do. That's what you need to do. Plant feet. On earth. Focus eyes. Downward. Drink a glass of water. I am going to remind us, together, again and again. Until we listen and really hear. Until we relapse and speed up and I say, "Hey. Wait. Look at me. Slow down." NOURISH YOURSELF. PLEASE. It will make the world a better place. You can't
runabusiness.bealive.raiseyourbabies.thinkgoodthoughts
unless you learn this VERY basic but not so easy coping skill. Everything is telling you to multitask. To connect. Fast. Instant Message. Constant contact. Go, go, go.
Who tells you to go take a nap? To stick your feet in some grass, or some fluffy socks? To take care of your damn self because that is the
BEST THING YOU CAN DO FOR ANYBODY else.
I DO. I am telling you. It's your job. Your first job. Your only real job. Take care of your scattered hot mess self. Do it however you know how. If you don't know how:: learn. NOW. It's past time.
Make it a New Year's resolution, join a cult, take my self care session. I don't care how you get there as long as you get to care. Take a step in that direction and DO IT RIGHT NOW. There is no time to waste.
Was it an excuse? You have to do what? Someone needs what? Screw it. At least for a minute.
Let's Not Forget, I am on This Journey Too
I have my own process. I have my own lessons. I have my own fears. I have my own successes.
Part of the process I have been working on (as my business shifts and grows, as my life shifts and grows) is my ability to communicate WHO my audience is and WHAT I have to offer to that audience.
This is a great exercise for someone who runs their own business to do at least twice a year. But it is really useful also if you are an employee or even as a family/community member. You just take the questions and phrase them a little differently.
I have my own process. I have my own lessons. I have my own fears. I have my own successes.
Part of the process I have been working on (as my business shifts and grows, as my life shifts and grows) is my ability to communicate WHO my audience is and WHAT I have to offer to that audience.
This is a great exercise for someone who runs their own business to do at least twice a year. But it is really useful also if you are an employee or even as a family/community member. You just take the questions and phrase them a little differently.
Who do I provide services to? Who are my ideal clients? What is my market? Who do I serve?
What are the services I can best provide? What can I help people with? What are my strengths? How can I help?
Here is what I came up with:
WHO MY CLIENTS ARE:
- People who are interested in being fulfilled, having the "good life."
- People who want to live in accordance with what they value.
- People who are willing to work hard, but don't want to work all the time.
- People seeking balance (between work and pleasure, between giving and taking, between passion and income).
- People who want to discuss, clarify and create goals for business and personal advancement.
WHAT I CAN HELP WITH:
- Helping you to figure out your goals, short/ long term, business/personal.
- Helping you create a schedule that works for you, that encourages you to thrive.
- Helping you organize your life, your priorities and your time.
- Mapping out and achieving your financial goals, both business and personal.
- Helping you to understand and honor your strengths and adapt to and work with your weaknesses.
- Helping you to realize that you are full of skills and amazing qualities that need to shine.
- Listening and processing along side you.
You can see the culmination of this little process on my website HERE.
Also, I am now offering these QUICKIE GOAL SESSIONS - sign up for one today and let's get to work!
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I Want to Sit My Ass in a Chair
I want help, I want company, I want to sit my ass in a chair. Simultaneously, I want to move, I want to dig a sand castle, I want to walk really, really, really far into the fog, I want to have a mudslide and then a nap.
I want help, I want company, I want to sit my ass in a chair. Simultaneously, I want to move, I want to dig a sand castle, I want to walk really, really, really far into the fog, I want to have a mudslide and then a nap. My friend's dad used to always sing to her, "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need." Is it true? Do you get what you need? I think, sometimes, we want something so badly, that it's the wanting that causes the distress. I'm not capable at bending the world to my will, it's a shame. I can set my intentions, but I can't always get what I want. So, what's the plan?
This comes up for me, yes, of course. But, I also see it come up for so many of my clients. An unmet want can be an opportunity to clear up a lot of stuff and reorient ourselves. If you find something you want and can't have (or at least don't know how to get there) here is a quick cheat sheet to make some progress out of it:
1) Identifying what it is that you want. Sometimes it is not very simple. Dig below the surface.
Today I want to be taken care of. I want to be nurtured.
2) Try to figure out what is missing. What is the unmet need beneath your want?
What's missing is me taking care of myself.
3) Gift yourself something (mine idea here) that meets your unmet need. Then check back in with your want and see how it is doing.
I am making iced tea. And scheduling a pedicure.